Love

Love is the craziest thing. It is the only thing in this world that can have one feeling on the top of the world, and also at the bottom of the bottom. There are certain things about this mystical energy that are not meant to be understood. The only thing one can do to not be in this never ending pit is to be careful and protect oneself. The problem with that is we are not being fair to ourselves or to the people we may eventually get involved with. So the ultimate question is who is more important is, who do I stay loyal to myself or that person I may get involved with? Do you protect yourself by holding back from that person, by pre-judging and holding that person responsible for what has happened to you in the past. The only way you can to do both is by being careful and taking it slow. You have to know and be sure that you want to be committed to that person, by doing so you now eliminate all excuses and can give yourself to that person. A relationship goes nowhere if one is not willing to give his or her self to that person. When taking your time you have to truly get to know that person and even then you have to be careful to pick-up on the hints that the other person is giving you that the person they are presenting you with may be fake. You have to make sure that the person is going to at least match your intensity, you cannot put in all your effort and allow this person to get away with putting in anything less than you put it .Getting into a relationship is like going into a war, you are going to have some people on your side, but the focus is trying to make it through the war without dying. If you are in a relationship and you are happy expect for people to try and change that because they are envious and wish it were them. Even after taking it slow you still must be very careful if your boyfriend or girlfriend messes up in the relationship you cannot just instantly forgive them even if you want to. Doing this shows the person that there are no consequences for their actions and this will eventually lead to more of the same behavior. If they mess up you must let them know it will not be tolerated, when you do this they will realize that they cannot act that way. But don’t interpret that has to go and be an asshole, you have to be understanding, and forgiving at the same time because no one is perfect and you should never expect that, you will be let down 100% of the time guaranteed. Another behavior to be very mindful of is hypocrisy, this will definitely tare a relationship apart, don’t expect your person to do or not to do certain things when you are out doing the same thing or even worse. If you are going to expect something from that person you should do the same thing. Lying is also something that should not be tolerated, because we are going into this relationship as a forgiving and understanding person one should never feel the need to lie, especially to someone you love because chances are they are going still love you regardless, they may be or seem to be the maddest person in the world but love doesn’t just fade in the air. If the person does lie to you then they do not respect you, and on the other hand if they confront you about something they did understand how much it took for that person to do that. Granted it doesn’t change the fact that the deed was done but the fact that the person told you should tell you that they do care about you. Because still most people in this world today are not going to do that, most people live by the motto "what they don’t know won’t hurt them", so a person who does tell the truth is special. Of course they still have to be shown consequences it is the right thing to do, they have to know it’s not acceptable. Sometimes as people we get wrapped up in what people say yes hearing that someone loves you is very nice. It gives you a certain level of comfort but, a person’s actions are should be the deciding factor when determining whether or not the person actually does love and care for you like they say they do. At the end of the day love is very confusing and you have to be very careful because it can put you in the bottom of the bottom, it is very important that after having a bad experience that if you are a good person to stay that way, one day someone will appreciate it one day.

P.S. – You maybe asking yourself how do I know this or what gives me the right to right this, I have been on top of the world and I have been to the bottom… I am not trying to scare anyone from being in love I am just telling you to be careful. Love is a good thing and everyone should experience it, but it should just be in the right way.


Song Influence:
Song Cry- Jay-Z
Something you Forgot- Lil Wayne
Outta Your System- Bow Wow

Terrance Clark aka Mr. Higher Level Thinking